THE FORTY RULES OF LOVE:

 


Prologue

Between your fingers you hold a stone and throw it into

flowing water. The effect might not be easy to see. There will

be a small ripple where the stone breaks the surface and then a

splash, muffled by the rush of the surrounding river. That’s all.

Throw a stone into a lake. The effect will be not only visible

but also far more lasting. The stone will disrupt the still

waters. A circle will form where the stone hit the water, and in

a flash that circle will multiply into another, then another.

Before long the ripples caused by one plop will expand until

they can be felt everywhere along the mirrored surface of the

water. Only when the circles reach the shore will they stop and

die out.

If a stone hits a river, the river will treat it as yet another

commotion in its already tumultuous course. Nothing unusual.

Nothing unmanageable.

If a stone hits a lake, however, the lake will never be the

same again.

For forty years Ella Rubinstein’s life had consisted of still

waters—a predictable sequence of habits, needs, and

preferences. Though it was monotonous and ordinary in many

ways, she had not found it tiresome. During the last twenty

years, every wish she had, every person she befriended, and

every decision she made was filtered through her marriage.

Her husband, David, was a successful dentist who worked

hard and made a lot of money. She had always known that

they did not connect on any deep level, but connecting

emotionally need not be a priority on a married couple’s list,


she thought, especially for a man and a woman who had been

married for so long. There were more important things than

passion and love in a marriage, such as understanding,

affection, compassion, and that most godlike act a person

could perform, forgiveness. Love was secondary to any of

these. Unless, that is, one lived in novels or romantic movies,

where the protagonists were always larger than life and their

love nothing short of legend.

Ella’s children topped her list of priorities. They had a

beautiful daughter in college, Jeannette, and teenage twins,

Orly and Avi. Also, they had a twelve-year-old golden

retriever, Spirit, who had been Ella’s walking buddy in the

mornings and her cheeriest companion ever since he’d been a

puppy. Now he was old, overweight, completely deaf, and

almost blind; Spirit’s time was coming, but Ella preferred to

think he would go on forever. Then again, that was how she

was. She never confronted the death of anything, be it a habit,

a phase, or a marriage, even when the end stood right in front

of her, plain and inevitable.

The Rubinsteins lived in Northampton, Massachusetts, in a

large Victorian house that needed some renovation but still

was splendid, with five bedrooms, three baths, shiny hardwood

floors, a three-car garage, French doors, and, best of all, an

outdoor Jacuzzi. They had life insurance, car insurance,

retirement plans, college savings plans, joint bank accounts,

and, in addition to the house they lived in, two prestigious

apartments: one in Boston, the other in Rhode Island. She and

David had worked hard for all this. A big, busy house with

children, elegant furniture, and the wafting scent of homemade

pies might seem a cliché to some people, but to them it was

the picture of an ideal life. They had built their marriage

around this shared vision and had attained most, if not all, of

their dreams.

On their last Valentine’s Day, her husband had given her a

heart-shaped diamond pendant and a card that read,

To my dear Ella,

A woman with a quiet manner, a generous heart, and the patience of a saint.

Thank you for accepting me as I am. Thank you for being my wife.

Yours,

David

Ella had never confessed this to David, but reading his card

had felt like reading an obituary. This is what they will write

about me when I die, she had thought. And if they were

sincere, they might also add this:Building her whole life around her husband and children,

Ella lacked any survival techniques to help her cope with life’s

hardships on her own. She was not the type to throw caution to

the wind. Even changing her daily coffee brand was a major

effort.

All of which is why no one, including Ella, could explain

what was going on when she filed for divorce in the fall of

2008 after twenty years of marriage.

But there was a reason: love.

They did not live in the same city. Not even on the same

continent. The two of them were not only miles apart but also

as different as day and night. Their lifestyles were so

dissimilar that it seemed impossible for them to bear each

other’s presence, never mind fall in love. But it happened. And

it happened fast, so fast in fact that Ella had no time to realize

what was happening and to be on guard, if one could ever be

on guard against love.

Love came to Ella as suddenly and brusquely as if a stone

had been hurled from out of nowhere into the tranquil pond of

her life.Ella

NORTHAMPTON, MAY 17, 2008

Birds were singing outside her kitchen window on that balmy

day in spring. Afterward Ella replayed the scene in her mind

so many times that, rather than a fragment from the past, it felt

like an ongoing moment still happening somewhere out there

in the universe.

There they were, sitting around the table, having a late

family lunch on a Saturday afternoon. Her husband was filling

his plate with fried chicken legs, his favorite food. Avi was

playing his knife and fork like drumsticks while his twin, Orly,

was trying to calculate how many bites of which food she

could eat so as not to ruin her diet of 650 calories a day.

Jeannette, who was a freshman at Mount Holyoke College

nearby, seemed lost in her thoughts as she spread cream cheese

on another slice of bread. Also at the table sat Aunt Esther,

who had stopped by to drop off one of her famous marble

cakes and then stayed on for lunch. Ella had a lot of work to

do afterward, but she was not ready to leave the table just yet.

Lately they didn’t have too many shared family meals, and she

saw this as a golden chance for everyone to reconnect.

“Esther, did Ella give you the good news?” David asked

suddenly. “She found a great job.”

Though Ella had graduated with a degree in English

literature and loved fiction, she hadn’t done much in the field

after college, other than editing small pieces for women’s

magazines, attending a few book clubs, and occasionally

writing book reviews for some local papers. That was all.

There was a time when she’d aspired to become a prominent

book critic, but then she simply accepted the fact that life had

carried her elsewhere, turning her into an industrious

housewife with three kids and endless domestic

responsibilities.

Not that she complained. Being the mother, the wife, the

dog walker, and the housekeeper kept her busy enough. She

didn’t have to be a breadwinner on top of all these. Though

none of her feminist friends from Smith College approved ofher choice, she was satisfied to be a stay-at-home mom and

grateful that she and her husband could afford it. Besides, she

had never abandoned her passion for books and still

considered herself a voracious reader.

A few years ago, things had begun to change. The children

were growing up, and they made it clear that they didn’t need

her as much as they once had. Realizing that she had too much

time to spare and no one to spend it with, Ella had considered

how it might be to find a job. David had encouraged her, but

though they kept talking and talking about it, she rarely

pursued the opportunities that came her way, and when she

did, potential employers were always looking for someone

younger or more experienced. Afraid of being rejected over

and over, she had simply let the subject drop.

Nevertheless, in May 2008 whatever obstacle had impeded

her from finding a job all these years unexpectedly vanished.

Two weeks shy of her fortieth birthday, she found herself

working for a literary agency based in Boston. It was her

husband who found her the job through one of his clients—or

perhaps through one of his mistresses.

“Oh, it’s no big deal,” Ella rushed to explain now. “I’m only

a part-time reader for a literary agent.”

But David seemed determined not to let her think too little

of her new job. “Come on, tell them it’s a well-known

agency,” he urged, nudging her, and when she refused to

comply, he heartily agreed with himself. “It’s a prestigious

place, Esther. You should see the other assistants! Girls and

boys fresh out of the best colleges. Ella is the only one going

back to work after being a housewife for years. Now, isn’t she

something?”

Ella wondered if, deep inside, her husband felt guilty about

keeping her away from a career, or else about cheating on her

—these being the only two explanations she could think of as

to why he was now going overboard in his enthusiasm.

Still smiling, David concluded, “This is what I call

chutzpah. We’re all proud of her.”“She is a prize. Always was,” said Aunt Esther in a voice so

sentimental that it sounded as if Ella had left the table and was

gone for good.

They all gazed at her lovingly. Even Avi didn’t make a

cynical remark, and Orly for once seemed to care about

something other than her looks. Ella forced herself to

appreciate this moment of kindness, but she felt an

overwhelming exhaustion that she had never experienced

before. She secretly prayed for someone to change the subject.

Jeannette, her older daughter, must have heard the prayer,

for she suddenly chimed in, “I have some good news, too.”

All heads turned toward her, faces beaming with

expectation.

“Scott and I have decided to get married,” Jeannette

announced. “Oh, I know what you guys are going to say! That

we haven’t finished college yet and all that, but you’ve got to

understand, we both feel ready for the next big move.”

An awkward silence descended upon the kitchen table as the

warmth that had canopied them just a moment ago evaporated.

Orly and Avi exchanged blank looks, and Aunt Esther froze

with her hand tightened around a glass of apple juice. David

put his fork aside as if he had no appetite left and squinted at

Jeannette with his light brown eyes that were deeply creased

with smile lines at the corners. However, right now he was

anything but smiling. His mouth had drawn into a pout, as

though he had just downed a swig of vinegar.

“Great! I expected you to share my happiness, but I get this

cold treatment instead,” Jeannette whined.

“You just said you were getting married,” remarked David

as if Jeannette didn’t know what she’d said and needed to be

informed.

“Dad, I know it seems a bit too soon, but Scott proposed to

me the other day and I’ve already said yes.”

“But why?” asked Ella.

From the way Jeannette looked at her, Ella reckoned, that

was not the kind of question her daughter had expected. Shewould rather have been asked “When?” or “How?” In either

case it meant that she could start shopping for her wedding

dress. The question “Why?” was another matter altogether and

had completely caught her off guard.

“Because I love him, I guess.” Jeannette’s tone was slightly

condescending.

“Honey, what I meant was, why the rush?” insisted Ella.

“Are you pregnant or something?”

Aunt Esther twitched in her chair, her face stern, her

anguish visible. She took an antacid tablet from her pocket and

started chewing on it.

“I’m going to be an uncle,” Avi said, giggling.

Ella held Jeannette’s hand and gave it a gentle squeeze.

“You can always tell us the truth. You know that, right? We’ll

stand by you no matter what.”

“Mom, will you please stop that?” Jeannette snapped as she

pulled her hand away. “This has nothing to do with pregnancy.

You’re embarrassing me.”

“I was just trying to help,” Ella responded calmly, calmness

being a state she had been lately finding harder and harder to

achieve.

“By insulting me, you mean. Apparently the only way you

can see Scott and me getting married is me being knocked up!

Does it ever occur to you that I might, just might, want to

marry this guy because I love him? We have been dating for

eight months now.”

This elicited a scoff from Ella. “Oh, yeah, as if you could

tell a man’s character in eight months! Your father and I have

been married for almost twenty years, and even we can’t claim

to know everything about each other. Eight months is nothing

in a relationship!”

“It took God only six days to create the entire universe,”

said Avi, beaming, but cold stares from everyone at the table

forced him back into silence.Sensing the escalating tension, David, his eyes fixed on his

elder daughter, his brow furrowed in thought, interjected,

“Honey, what your mom is trying to say is that dating is one

thing, marrying is quite another.”

“But, Dad, did you think we would date forever?” Jeannette

asked.

Drawing in a deep breath, Ella said, “To be perfectly blunt,

we were expecting you to find someone better. You’re too

young to get involved in any serious relationship.”

“You know what I’m thinking, Mom?” Jeannette said in a

voice so flat as to be unrecognizable. “I’m thinking you’re

projecting your own fears onto me. But just because you

married so young and had a baby when you were my age, that

doesn’t mean I’m going to make the same mistake.”

Ella blushed crimson as if slapped in the face. From deep

within she remembered the difficult pregnancy that had

resulted in Jeannette’s premature birth. As a baby and then as a

toddler, her daughter had drained all of her energy, which was

why she had waited six years before getting pregnant again.

“Sweetheart, we were happy for you when you started

dating Scott,” David said cautiously, trying a different strategy.

“He’s a nice guy. But who knows what you’ll be thinking after

graduation? Things might be very different then.”

Jeannette gave a small nod that conveyed little more than

feigned acquiescence. Then she said, “Is this because Scott

isn’t Jewish?”

David rolled his eyes in disbelief. He had always taken

pride in being an open-minded and cultured father, avoiding

negative remarks about race, religion, or gender in the house.

Jeannette, however, seemed relentless. Turning to her

mother, she asked, “Can you look me in the eye and tell me

you’d still be making the same objections if Scott were a

young Jewish man named Aaron?”

Jeannette’s voice needled with bitterness and sarcasm, and

Ella feared there was more of that welling up inside her

daughter.“Sweetheart, I’ll be completely honest with you, even if you

might not like it. I know how wonderful it is to be young and

in love. Believe me, I do. But to get married to someone from

a different background is a big gamble. And as your parents

we want to make sure you’re doing the right thing.”

“And how do you know your right thing is the right thing

for me?”

The question threw Ella off a little. She sighed and

massaged her forehead, as if on the verge of a migraine.

“I love him, Mom. Does that mean anything to you? Do you

remember that word from somewhere? He makes my heart

beat faster. I can’t live without him.”

Ella heard herself chuckle. It was not her intention to make

fun of her daughter’s feelings, not at all, but that was probably

what her laughing to herself sounded like. For reasons

unknown to her, she felt extremely nervous. She’d had fights

with Jeannette before, hundreds of them, but today it felt as

though she were quarreling with something else, something

bigger.

“Mom, haven’t you ever been in love?” Jeannette retorted, a

hint of contempt creeping into her tone.

“Oh, give me a break! Stop daydreaming and get real, will

you? You’re being so … ” Ella’s eyes darted toward the

window, hunting for a dramatic word, until finally she came

up with “ … romantic!”

“What’s wrong with being romantic?” Jeannette asked,

sounding offended.

Really, what was wrong with being romantic? Ella

wondered. Since when was she so annoyed by romanticism?

Unable to answer the questions tugging at the edges of her

mind, she continued all the same. “Come on, honey. Which

century are you living in? Just get it in your head, women

don’t marry the men they fall in love with. When push comes

to shove, they choose the guy who’ll be a good father and a

reliable husband. Love is only a sweet feeling bound to come

and quickly go away.”When she finished talking, Ella turned to her husband.

David had clasped his hands in front of him, slowly as if

through water, and was looking at her like he’d never seen her

before.

“I know why you’re doing this,” Jeannette said. “You’re

jealous of my happiness and my youth. You want to make an

unhappy housewife out of me. You want me to be you, Mom.”

Ella felt a strange, sinking feeling in the pit of her stomach,

as if she had a giant rock sitting there. Was she an unhappy

housewife? A middle-aged mom trapped in a failing marriage?

Was this how her children saw her? And her husband, too?

What about friends and neighbors? Suddenly she had the

feeling that everyone around her secretly pitied her, and the

suspicion was so painful that she gasped.

“You should apologize to your mom,” David said, turning to

Jeannette with a frown on his face.

“It’s all right. I don’t expect an apology,” Ella said

dejectedly.

Jeannette gave her mother a mock leer. And just like that,

she pushed back her chair, threw her napkin aside, and walked

out of the kitchen. After a minute Orly and Avi silently

followed suit, either in an unusual act of solidarity with their

elder sister or because they’d gotten bored of all this adult talk.

Aunt Esther left next, mumbling some poor excuse while

chewing fiercely on her last antacid tablet.

David and Ella remained at the table, an intense

awkwardness hanging in the air between them. It pained Ella

to have to face this void, which, as they both knew, had

nothing to do with Jeannette or any of their children.

David grabbed the fork he had put aside and inspected it for

a while. “So should I conclude that you didn’t marry the man

you loved?”

“Oh, please, that’s not what I meant.”

“What is it you meant, then?” David said, still talking to the

fork. “I thought you were in love with me when we got

married.”“I was in love with you,” Ella said, but couldn’t help

adding, “back then.”

“So when did you stop loving me?” David asked, deadpan.

Ella looked at her husband in astonishment, like someone

who had never seen her reflection before and who now held a

mirror to her face. Had she stopped loving him? It was a

question she had never asked herself before. She wanted to

respond but lacked not so much the will as the words. Deep

inside she knew it was the two of them they should be

concerned about, not their children. But instead they were

doing what they both were best at: letting the days go by, the

routine take over, and time run its course of inevitable torpor.

She started to cry, unable to hold back this continuing

sadness that had, without her knowledge, become a part of

who she was. David turned his anguished face away. They

both knew he hated to see her cry just as much as she hated to

cry in front of him. Fortunately, the phone rang just then,

saving them.

David picked it up. “Hello … yes, she’s here. Hold on,

please.”

Ella pulled herself together and spoke up, doing her best to

sound in good spirits. “Yes, this is Ella.”

“Hi, this is Michelle. Sorry to bother you over the

weekend,” chirped a young woman’s voice. “It’s just that

yesterday Steve wanted me to check in with you, and I simply

forgot. Did you have a chance to start working on the

manuscript?”

“Oh.” Ella sighed, only now remembering the task awaiting

her.

Her first assignment at the literary agency was to read a

novel by an unknown European author. She was then expected

to write an extensive report on it.

“Tell him not to worry. I’ve already started reading,” Ella

lied. Ambitious and headstrong, Michelle was the kind of

person she didn’t want to upset on her first assignment.

“Oh, good! How is it?”Ella paused, puzzled as to what to say. She didn’t know

anything about the manuscript, except that it was a historical

novel centered on the life of the famous mystic poet Rumi,

who she learned was called “the Shakespeare of the Islamic

world.”

“Oh, it’s very … mystical.” Ella chuckled, hoping to cover

with a joke.

But Michelle was all business. “Right,” she said flatly.

“Listen, I think you need to get on this. It might take longer

than you expect to write a report on a novel like that.… ”

There was a distant muttering on the phone as Michelle’s

voice trailed off. Ella imagined her juggling several tasks

simultaneously—checking e-mails, reading a review on one of

her authors, taking a bite from her tuna-salad sandwich, and

polishing her fingernails—all while talking on the phone.

“Are you still there?” Michelle asked a minute later.

“Yes, I am.”

“Good. Listen, it’s crazy in here. I need to go. Just keep in

mind the deadline is in three weeks.”

“I know,” Ella said abruptly, trying to sound more

determined. “I’ll make the deadline.”

The truth was, Ella wasn’t sure she wanted to evaluate this

manuscript at all. In the beginning she’d been so eager and

confident. It had felt thrilling to be the first one to read an

unpublished novel by an unknown author and to play however

small a role in his fate. But now she wasn’t sure if she could

concentrate on a subject as irrelevant to her life as Sufism and

a time as distant as the thirteenth century.

Michelle must have detected her hesitation. “Is there a

problem?” she asked. When no answer came, she grew

insistent. “Listen, you can confide in me.”

After a bit of silence, Ella decided to tell her the truth.

“It’s just that I’m not sure I’m in the right state of mind

these days to concentrate on a historical novel. I mean, I’m

interested in Rumi and all that, but still,me. Perhaps you could give me another novel—you know,

something I could more easily relate to.”

“That’s such a skewed approach,” said Michelle. “You think

you can work better with books you know something about?

Not at all! Just because you live in this state, you can’t expect

to edit only novels that take place in Massachusetts, right?”

“That’s not what I meant …” Ella said, and immediately

realized she had uttered the same sentence too many times this

afternoon. She glanced at her husband to see if he, too, had

noticed this, but David’s expression was hard to decipher.

“Most of the time, we have to read books that have nothing

to do with our lives. That’s part of our job. Just this week I

finished working on a book by an Iranian woman who used to

operate a brothel in Tehran and had to flee the country. Should

I have told her to send the manuscript to an Iranian agency

instead?”

“No, of course not,” Ella mumbled, feeling silly and guilty.

“Isn’t connecting people to distant lands and cultures one of

the strengths of good literature?”

“Sure it is. Listen, forget what I said. You’ll have a report on

your desk before the deadline,” Ella conceded, hating Michelle

for treating her as if she were the dullest person alive and

hating herself for allowing this to happen.

“Wonderful, that’s the spirit,” Michelle concluded in her

singsong voice. “Don’t get me wrong, but I think you should

bear in mind that there are dozens of people out there who

would love to have your job. And most of them are almost half

your age. That’ll keep you motivated.”

When Ella hung up the phone, she found David watching

her, his face solemn and reserved. He seemed to be waiting for

them to pick up where they’d left off. But she didn’t feel like

mulling over their daughter’s future anymore, if that was what

they’d been worrying about in the first place.

Later in the day, she was alone on the porch sitting in her

favorite rocking chair, looking at the orangey-red

Northampton sunset. The sky felt so close and open that you

could almost touch it. Her brain had gone quiet, as if tired of

all the noise swirling inside. This month’s credit-card

payments, Orly’s bad eating habits, Avi’s poor grades, Aunt

Esther and her sad cakes, her dog Spirit’s decaying health,

Jeannette’s marriage plans, her husband’s secret flings, the

absence of love in her life … One by one, she locked them all

in small mental boxes.

In that frame of mind, Ella took the manuscript out of its

package and bounced it in her hand, as if weighing it. The title

of the novel was written on the cover in indigo ink: Sweet

Blasphemy.

Ella had been told that nobody knew much about the author

—a certain A. Z. Zahara, who lived in Holland. His

manuscript had been shipped to the literary agency from

Amsterdam with a postcard inside the envelope. On the front

of the postcard was a picture of tulip fields in dazzling pinks,

yellows, and purples, and on the back a note written in delicate

handwriting:

Dear Sir/Madam,

Greetings from Amsterdam. The story I herewith send you takes place in

thirteenth-century Konya in Asia Minor. But I sincerely believe that it cuts

across countries, cultures, and centuries.

I hope you will have the time to read SWEET BLASPHEMY, a historical,

mystical novel on the remarkable bond between Rumi, the best poet and

most revered spiritual leader in the history of Islam, and Shams of Tabriz, an

unknown, unconventional dervish full of scandals and surprises.

May love be always with you and you always surrounded with love.

A. Z. Zahara

Ella sensed that the postcard had piqued the literary agent’s

curiosity. But Steve was not a man who had time to read the

work of an amateur writer. So he’d handed the package to his

assistant, Michelle, who had passed it on to her new assistant.

This is how Sweet Blasphemy ended up in Ella’s hands.

Little did she know that this was going to be not just any

book, but the book that changed her life. In the time she was

reading it, her life would be rewritten.

Ella turned the first page. There was a note about the writer.

A. Z. Zahara lives in Amsterdam with his books, cats, and

turtles when he is not traveling around the world. Sweet

Blasphemy is his first novel and most probably his last. He has

no intention of becoming a novelist and has written this book

purely out of admiration and love for the great philosopher,

mystic, and poet Rumi and his beloved sun, Shams of Tabriz.

Her eyes moved down the page to the next line. And there

Ella read something that rang strangely familiar:

For despite what some people say, love is not only a sweet

feeling bound to come and quickly go away.

Her jaw dropped as she realized this was the contradiction

of the exact sentence she had spoken to her daughter in the

kitchen earlier in the day. She stood still for a moment,

shivering with the thought that some mysterious force in the

universe, or else this writer, whoever he might be, was spying

on her. Perhaps he had written this book knowing beforehand

what kind of person was going to read it first. This writer had

her in mind as his reader. For some reason unbeknownst to

her, Ella found the idea both disturbing and exciting.

In many ways the twenty-first century is not that different

from the thirteenth century. Both will be recorded in history as

times of unprecedented religious clashes, cultural

misunderstandings, and a general sense of insecurity and fear

of the Other. At times like these, the need for love is greater

than ever.

A sudden wind blew in her direction, cool and strong,

scattering the leaves on the porch. The beauty of the sunset

drifted toward the western horizon, and the air felt dull,

joyless.

Because love is the very essence and purpose of life. As

Rumi reminds us, it hits everybody, including those who shun

love—even those who use the word “romantic” as a sign of

disapproval.

Ella was as bowled over as if she had read there, “Love hits

everybody, even a middle-aged housewife in Northampton

named Ella Rubinstein.”Her gut instinct told her to put the manuscript aside, go into

the house, give Michelle a call, and tell her there was no way

she could write a report on this novel. Instead she took a deep

breath, turned the page, and started to read.


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